One of the hardest adjustments into motherhood for me has been letting go of my OCD neat nut ways. There's just NOT enough time to keep it up. Plain and simple. I know I've talked about my nights as a working (away from the home ) mom...so I'm not going to rehash every single detail, but from the minute I get home until the minute Collins goes to bed, we DO NOT STOP. (and yes, I know stay at home mom's are just as busy, but this is the only time I get to play/interact with Collins during the day...but yet it is also the only time I have to do household chores, cook, clean, etc.) It's just impossible to do it all. Even after Collins goes to bed at 8, there is generally always something house related that has to be done (cleaning up from cooking/laundry/etc.)...so if I do get ANY time to relax at night it generally doesn't happen until about 8:30 or 9 (at the earliest). And, these days I need to be in bed by 10...so yeah, not much time for Mikey and I to unwind as a couple and spend quality time together. Which is okay, sometimes...I get it, this is the stage of life we are in. But, I'm really working on not worrying about EVERY last thing getting done each night so I do have a few minutes to unwind and enjoy some quality time with my husband.
And the way I do this.... Is sometimes I just have to close my eyes and pretend the den doesn't look like a disaster zone of C's toys. Or there aren't three loads of laundry piled up upstairs. Or the dishes can just wait till tomorrow night. It's really, really hard for me though. I usually wind up picking up the toys because it really only takes a few minutes...but sometimes I don't. And I just lay my butt on the couch amongst the mess and know that it's okay. It'll get done. At some point. Just not right now.
This has been a huge learning process for me. But, I've found that I'm happier if I can "let it go" so to speak and not have everything be "perfect" every night, because there are way too many more important things to do/think about...like watching Collins knock over her blocks and squeal with delight for the 10th time or watching an episode of Scandal with Mikey on the couch like we did pre-baby days. I've just got to let go. And this by far, has been the hardest adjustment to life with a child. You do NOT have the time to have everything done all the time. You just don't. The sooner you figure that out, the better:-)
*Seriously, pre Collins, every night before I went to bed (with the exception of a night spent out on the town;-)!!) the kitchen was clean, counter tops wiped down, dishes in the dishwasher, I straightened up the den, folded blankets back up, etc. It may not have been deep cleaned every night, but it was tidy.*
Anyways......what's that saying...."Please excuse the mess, my kids are making memories." I'm trying to FULLY embrace this. It's been hard, but I realize that it is way more important for me to devote my time to my girl and my husband than silly household chores. They'll get done at some point...or maybe not. Who knows?
Cheers to not doing the chores! Because....AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT!
xoxo.
And the way I do this.... Is sometimes I just have to close my eyes and pretend the den doesn't look like a disaster zone of C's toys. Or there aren't three loads of laundry piled up upstairs. Or the dishes can just wait till tomorrow night. It's really, really hard for me though. I usually wind up picking up the toys because it really only takes a few minutes...but sometimes I don't. And I just lay my butt on the couch amongst the mess and know that it's okay. It'll get done. At some point. Just not right now.
This has been a huge learning process for me. But, I've found that I'm happier if I can "let it go" so to speak and not have everything be "perfect" every night, because there are way too many more important things to do/think about...like watching Collins knock over her blocks and squeal with delight for the 10th time or watching an episode of Scandal with Mikey on the couch like we did pre-baby days. I've just got to let go. And this by far, has been the hardest adjustment to life with a child. You do NOT have the time to have everything done all the time. You just don't. The sooner you figure that out, the better:-)
*Seriously, pre Collins, every night before I went to bed (with the exception of a night spent out on the town;-)!!) the kitchen was clean, counter tops wiped down, dishes in the dishwasher, I straightened up the den, folded blankets back up, etc. It may not have been deep cleaned every night, but it was tidy.*
Anyways......what's that saying...."Please excuse the mess, my kids are making memories." I'm trying to FULLY embrace this. It's been hard, but I realize that it is way more important for me to devote my time to my girl and my husband than silly household chores. They'll get done at some point...or maybe not. Who knows?
Cheers to not doing the chores! Because....AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT!
xoxo.
and whoever says they do it all is LYING!!!!
ReplyDeleteSame story at my house! I really make an effort to keep everything clean. Most days it just isn't possible. As soon as all the toys get put away, they're right back on the floor again!
ReplyDeleteOh girl!! I am right there with you! Do you remember my house pre-Belle or when she was tiny???? Spotless...always. Like you, I learned early on that this was either going to drive me mad or you just have to close your eyes to it sometimes and spend time with those babies. They aren't going to be little forever and they will remember your attention and love not that you had clutter on the countertops or a 2-day pile of laundry! I have to keep telling myself this of course at least 3 times a week ;)
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