To be honest, I've never really given this topic much thought. I, much like a lot of other people I have witnessed/encountered during my 29 years have always harped on the "SHARE" philosophy when interacting/babysitting younger children. Sure, I try to negotiate and help the children realize that they can't get what they want WHEN they want it, just because THEY want it, but I typically have always been a big proponent of SHARING. I mean, I feel like that's common, right?
Well, that was until I read this article. It definitely got me thinking. And at first, I was all...oh yes, this totally makes sense...I am all on board. But, then I got to really thinking about it. And, I just don't know if there is any perfect solution.
I think sharing should and is generally event specific. In the article, in the scenarios she mentions, I do believe NOT SHARING was okay. In fact, more than okay. But, in some ways...I feel like it can also be teaching your child to be stingy, unkind, and uncaring. Sure, you brought the toy to the playground and it is YOUR toy (and in NO way should the mother have said anything) but I feel like I would want to teach my child that it is kind to share with other children...no, you don't HAVE to do it, but it is thoughtful and nice. And aren't those characteristics you want to instill in your children?
Is this woman proposing that if you invite children over to YOUR house and they want to play with YOUR toys that you not share a toy if you would rather play with it? To me, that seems silly. I feel like this philosophy is a little far reaching. I think you can teach your child how to share responsibly (ha, that sounds so serious) and also teach them that they can't have something ATTHISVERYSECOND just because they want it. Am I delusional for thinking this? I was taught to share growing up, and in no way shape or form am I an adult who thinks things should just be given to me. So, you can have both.
I don't think all sharing is bad. I think that a child pitching a fit to have a toy that someone else is currently playing with can be bad, very bad. And that child needs to learn to wait patiently, but I believe that the other child could eventually share his toy and all be right with the world. Is that so wrong?
So, yes I will teach Collins to share. I'll also teach her to be patient and if another child does not want to share, than that is okay too. She doesn't always have to share, but for the most part I still think sharing is a good concept to teach children. I will also teach her that she cannot have something just because she wants it. The two can co-exist, right?
Collins' friend Harper already knows how to share her food ;-) Cutest thing ever.
Anyways, off my soapbox now.
Getting geared up for CARRIE UNDERWOOD TONIGHT!!!!!!!!!!
My mama and I are going on a date night to see my idol. Could not be more excited!
xoxo
Well, that was until I read this article. It definitely got me thinking. And at first, I was all...oh yes, this totally makes sense...I am all on board. But, then I got to really thinking about it. And, I just don't know if there is any perfect solution.
I think sharing should and is generally event specific. In the article, in the scenarios she mentions, I do believe NOT SHARING was okay. In fact, more than okay. But, in some ways...I feel like it can also be teaching your child to be stingy, unkind, and uncaring. Sure, you brought the toy to the playground and it is YOUR toy (and in NO way should the mother have said anything) but I feel like I would want to teach my child that it is kind to share with other children...no, you don't HAVE to do it, but it is thoughtful and nice. And aren't those characteristics you want to instill in your children?
Is this woman proposing that if you invite children over to YOUR house and they want to play with YOUR toys that you not share a toy if you would rather play with it? To me, that seems silly. I feel like this philosophy is a little far reaching. I think you can teach your child how to share responsibly (ha, that sounds so serious) and also teach them that they can't have something ATTHISVERYSECOND just because they want it. Am I delusional for thinking this? I was taught to share growing up, and in no way shape or form am I an adult who thinks things should just be given to me. So, you can have both.
I don't think all sharing is bad. I think that a child pitching a fit to have a toy that someone else is currently playing with can be bad, very bad. And that child needs to learn to wait patiently, but I believe that the other child could eventually share his toy and all be right with the world. Is that so wrong?
So, yes I will teach Collins to share. I'll also teach her to be patient and if another child does not want to share, than that is okay too. She doesn't always have to share, but for the most part I still think sharing is a good concept to teach children. I will also teach her that she cannot have something just because she wants it. The two can co-exist, right?
Collins' friend Harper already knows how to share her food ;-) Cutest thing ever.
Anyways, off my soapbox now.
Getting geared up for CARRIE UNDERWOOD TONIGHT!!!!!!!!!!
My mama and I are going on a date night to see my idol. Could not be more excited!
xoxo
I think it varies by situation. I read the article and I think that if a child came up to Avery at the park and wanted to play with her toy, I'd say no. It's Avery's toy, she has brought it and the stranger kid doesn't just get to play with it. That's weird. But I do think kids should learn to share...like riding in that car for an hour and a half in the article is a little ridiculous. There can be a healthy balance between sharing and hogging it all.
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